It isn’t about the Sprite.
What I’m Thinking
A couple of weeks ago we went to a favorite restaurant of ours for dinner as a family. Typically we opt for water instead of soda and this visit was no exception.
Our oldest son, who’s eight, decided to fill up his cup with Sprite instead but tell us it was water.
It was only after his younger sister took a sneaky sip from his cup that his deception was revealed.
I removed the Sprite and sat thinking for a moment about what I should say. As his parent it’s my responsibility to help him learn and grow.
I’ll admit that sometimes in these situations it’s my knee jerk to tell him off.
But after a brief moment I said, “Son, it isn’t about the sprite” I went on to explain that the real issue here was the dishonesty and the damage that it can cause in relationships.
I then asked him, “when we come here again, how am I going to trust you when you go and get a drink?”
I said that in the end, the greatest consequence of your making choices like getting Sprite when you should have gotten water, is that eventually no one would trust you, and that we need trust to have healthy relationships.
No punishment, no words of frustration. We finished our meals and headed home.
I’ve thought that perhaps it’s true for all of us, that the greatest consequence of our choices is the impact they have on our relationships.
Having healthy and robust relationships is a better way to live. So It doesn’t hurt to regularly take stock of how our choices are impacting our relationships for good or bad.
These are my thoughts. I’d like to hear yours too.
What I’m Reading
I am currently in the process of reading The Doors of Faith by Terryl Givens.
I am mostly enjoying it, though Terryl has a more expansive vocabulary than I, so I have found myself frequenting the dictionary several times.
Here are some of my favorite quotes,
There are very few simple choices. No blueprint gives us easy answers. Life’s most wrenching choices are not between right and wrong but between competing demands on our time, our resources, our love, and our loyalty. (Page 30)
We are not born into a condition of sheltered stillness. Quite the contrary. We come with massive inherited baggage, multiple influences on our bodies and psyches, inherited predispositions, innate biological needs, inflicted emotional wounds, and fleshly appetites and weaknesses. (Page 4)
What I’m Doing
Since selling our home in Utah late March, so much of my time has been spent preparing to move our family to Almost Heaven, West Virginia.
Last week I loaded up all our possessions into a 26 foot Uhaul and drove the 1600 miles with my Brother-in-law.
We’re currently in Idaho visiting family, but next Wednesday we hit the road again, this time with 5 children from 8-years old to newborn. Wish us luck!
All the best over this next week,