Jun 21 • 6M

Dad it’s time to wake up…

A true story

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Honest, candid and straightforward ideas for living a fulfilling life and reaching our potential. Hiya. I'm Matthew Royston, the husband of one, father of four, and The Bold Brit [honest, candid, Inspiring]. I grew up in Bristol, England but currently enjoy living in Utah, United States. I want to live a fulfilling life, reach my potential, and help others do the same. I have concluded that progress in our personal development, robust personal relationships, deep and abiding faith in Jesus Christ, and having a healthy body and mind are the core components of a fulfilling life. The rest of life is often insignificant, or unimportant.
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“Dad, it’s time to wake up” his spry 7-year-old daughter announced as she entered the room. But unlike previous times, there was no response. She could have gotten louder but it wouldn’t have made a difference. It couldn’t. Because her dad was gone.

At the age of forty-five an aneurysm had come in the night and stolen him away.

Now fatherless and broken-hearted, she felt alone, abandoned and angry. How could this happen to me?

The years rolled on and the pain subsided little with each major life event, birthday and Father’s Day. But pain turned to questions. She stopped asking, “how could this happen to me?” And started asking, “why did this happen to him?”

Forty-five is too young to die. Was it a freak occurrence that had prematurely robbed her of a father these many years? What even was an aneurysm? What caused them and could they be prevented? She had questions.

Now married with children of her own, she began diving into studies, research and articles. But the more she read, the more she concluded here fathers death wasn’t unexpected.

She loved her father immensely but he hadn’t been a healthy man. Like so many others, he had spent much of his adult life eating a standard American diet of highly processed foods rich in oil, salt, and sugar, along with animal based products like meat, eggs and dairy. Years of this has led him to obesity and poor health.

Her fathers death remained sad but became less surprising as research and studies revealed his lifestyle and health were clear markers for increased chances of an aneurism.

Of course she could never know for certain. He had sustained a mild head injury some time before his death, but this being the cause was extremely rare, even among severe head traumas.

She concluded that her fathers health, even if not the precise cause, had contributed to his premature death.

As she finished her research, she was left unsure which hurt more; losing her father or knowing that her father could have done more to prevent his own death.

This is the true story of my beautiful wife Cassandra, and I share it with her permission.

It’s a poignant story that stirs emotion in me almost every time I revisit it.

I’m currently thirty-two years old with five children of my own and my life has some problems.

For starters I’m currently obese with about 40-percent of the US population. I frequently find myself struggling mentally and I’m certainly not at a spiritual peak in my life.

It’s not all doom and gloom however and I don’t share this to evoke sympathy or concern. I know many people feel similar to me.

Perhaps you can relate when I say that this place I often find myself is a sticky one. It frequently seems that I press the gas and all that happens is the wheels spin and I get nowhere and feeling stuck is exhausting and discouraging.

But I’m not ready to abandon myself to this fate. No. I want to discover a sense of wellness in my life.

So here marks the start of a personal wellness journey and I invite you to join me.

Wellness, I have concluded, is not a destination but rather a journey of continuous and ongoing learning, growing and improving.

For me, wellness includes taking care of the three core parts of who I am,

  • My Body

  • My Mind

  • My Spirit

These of course are broad umbrella terms, but they are where I am choosing to begin exploring, discovering and thinking.

I don’t have all the answers, and I still have so much to learn and discover. But I’m happy to share my own experiences, knowledge, and insights that perhaps I might help others on their own personal wellness journey.

One thing I know for certain is that I don’t want to be the dad that doesn’t wake up when my children come to get me.

All the best,

P.S. Just so you know

I’m sharing my own experiences, thoughts, insights and journey. What has worked or is true for me may not be so for you. All advice or opinion, even from ‘experts’, should be taken with a pinch of salt because there really is no substitute for the difficult challenge of thinking and discovering truth and our own answers. So take what resonates and works for you and disregard the rest. But please join me in continued exploring, discovering, and above all, thinking for ourselves.